When to Leave Cheating Mate

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So your mate cheated on you and you have always suspected them of doing it but when you ask she/he looks you in the eye and says no I have not cheated. Then later on someone sees you walking with your mate and ask hey is this your brother/sister and you say no i am her husband/boyfriend/fiance.....then they come out and say well I'm sorry me and her have been seeing each other for a while now his/her head drops and you get furious. Now you guys are back at home and you are enraged your mate is scared for 2 reasons of you snapping and cocking them a cold one and of you leaving. You then look him/her in the eye and say i asked you if you cheated on me you said no, he/she stands there silent this makes you even more upset so you pour out your heart and start to move around franticly, now your mate decides to say something and he/she says If i would of told you, you would of left me! you then look at him/her and think to yourself these very thoughts: How can a person be so selfish, how can he/she try to manipulate me by withholding the truth from me, If you loved me and did not want me to leave you would of not cheated no matter how bad things were! Now out of anger you raise your head because you hurt this pain you are feeling is nothing like you felt before and instead of yelling and throwing tantrums you sink into the floor with tears pouring. Your mate embraces you and says I am sorry, But you did not hear them for the pain was just too much.

Now lets stop here for a second because this is where you tell if you should leave your mate or stay with them

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Hello again lets finish the above and feel free to comment on these forums.

Now the ---- has really hit the fan for your relationship. Your mate can respond in 3 different with 2 ways being wrong and 1 way being the only way.

When to leave #1- Your Mate decides to feel empowered because you chose to give him/her another chance and thinks to himself/herself I can do anything and this fool will still try to take me back he/she is a push over time to have some fun!.......So they go out and cheat again and this time told you about them cheating and puts on an act of how sorry they are using excuses they were drunk etc. So now again you are at the crossroads on staying with this person or leaving this person. It is obvious from someone on the outside to say you should leave that person, but you are still in love and can not bring yourself to leave him/her. It happened a second time and your mate saw the pain and devastation that you went through the first time around and still let himself/herself bring you to that pain again, That my friend is when it is time to leave your mate or in this case your ex mate.

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Reason To Leave #2
Your mate tells you, lays with you, and say they will do anything that you need and be there when you need them to be, but when such a situation comes they choose something else over the you that is hurting. For an example: The job called in and asks if they can come in to work on the same day you just asked your mate if they can be there with you all day because you need him/her to get over this pain. Your mate says yes to the job and when you confront him/her, he/she says well the job needs me and i can not just leave them like that, while you are thinking to yourself But i need you remember i just said that. He/She gets dressed for work and continue on to work and you just lay in bed feeling all the pain that your mate caused you and now you are feeling even more pain because he/she chose a job over you, knowing all the while they can always get a job but there is only one of you they still chose the job. This is a good enough reason to leave your mate because you have lost trust of your mate and he/she says they will be there for you and something small like a job comes up and he/she goes to it instead of doing what she/he said he/she would do. Killing your trust even more and the darkness consumes you making you feel as if you are nothing, and that the person who is doing this to you is way better than you so you stay and suffer, but you DON'T because this is when it is time to leave your mate because they broke your trust twice and was not there when you needed them so move on to someone who will be there for you!

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These are the reasons for leaving your mate comment and tell us what you think about what was said and if you have additional advice for the memebers