2nd time

[hajibaba]

I'm pursuing a woman,  we not talked for 2 years after we broke up.  She distrusted me, her family didn't like me.

[datingcasanova]

Hey there hajibaba
I have a quick question for you how did you guys break apart and how are things between you two right now

[hajibaba]

We broke up cuz she was stressed with school, and her dad was sick, so she "didn't want a relationship"  Then we argued alot since i got her a job as a ring girl when we first hooked up.  Now we talked for 5 min and it was pretty neutral.

[datingcasanova]

Oh ok i see from what i can tell the break up that happened was and was not your fault im guessing she was pretty young when her dad got sick and she had to get a job early so it stressed her out and with you two arguing it added even more stress to the situation. The reason you guys only talk for 5 minutes now im guessing is because it reminds her of a time when she was most stressed and probably never want to be under that type of pressure again. Relax though because that does not mean you can not get her back the first thing you should show her is that you are a better man than you were in the past and that you understand that you were being harsh to her when she was under so much pressure tell her if you could take all the things you both argued about back you will and tell her you want to get to know the new her and things should start from there

[hajibaba]

We were both 19,  she didn't get a job,  we only talked for 5 min cuz i had to run off to work

[datingcasanova]

Oh that is good did you at least exchange numbers because that made it seem like you were too busy for her and that you forgot about her and the past you have a small window of opportunity to get her back

[hajibaba]

We didn't exchange anything,  alls we asked were how been and discussed a business thing and agreed to talk later

[datingcasanova]

Quick question if you guys did not exchange numbers how will you talk later? now on to the next thing if you were discussing some business proposal that is good also meaning you can get a place to meet up such as a diner or at one of your homes, first thing i would say to do is try to get her number to contact her do not do it as if you are hitting on her get it and say you are discussing the business proposal and once you guys meet up bring up the past relationship and she might be silent when you bring it up but its a good time for you to apologize even if you do not feel it was your fault

[hajibaba]

we were and still can talk on facebook;  we live 47 miles away from each other;  she declined the first proposal,  after work i sent to her inbox a 2nd one

[datingcasanova]

yes though facebook is a way to communicate with someone it is not the best a phone/skype conversation you can hear the tones of the person voice that lets you know when not to say something and when to say something 47 miles is not far at all if this is the woman you are pursuing distance does not matter if you truly want to be with this person so i say your first step to winning her back is getting her number

[hajibaba]

from posts on her wall,  i suspect that she lacks a phone atm

[datingcasanova]

There is skype since she is on facebook I am assuming she has internet connection anything that you can voice chat with her about is great try this out and tell me if it worked for you later today 92% chance it will from past experiences but to be honest dating someone i dated before was not the same but i hope this works out for you