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« on: December 12, 2012, 09:49:15 am »
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When to NOT Leave Your Mate! / You Are The Problem You Just Don't See It Yet!
« on: May 16, 2012, 10:13:41 pm »
So you have problems in your relationship and you feel you should the end the relationship because your mate is just not satisfying you at all!
Hello Datingcasanova here,
Today's topic is when to not leave your mate, this is a very broad topic some people will disagree and some people will agree to this.
Your relationship is not going as well as you thought it should, you had everything planned out but your mate is causing everything to run at a slower rate is it time to leave them and stop putting up with the things he/she does?
The easy answer to this question is NO, just because you have something planned does not mean everything will go as planned, because plans change. You say your mate is slowing down your process aye? Visualize for a second you on your own cooking,cleaning,taking out the trash,mowing the lawn,paying the bills,etc. Suddenly having that partner does not seem to be slowing you down anymore in fact your partner is helping you speed up anything you are doing or planning to do. Do not over look the small things one mate does because that small thing could be something huge if you had to do it yourself.
Mate not living up to your standards? I'll answer that question with a question, why even have standards with the person you LOVE accept them for who they are not who you want them to be, take the time to talk it out with them and help nudge them into the person you want them to be without changing them. Take a deep breath and slow down because your relationship is being rushed if you want everything to be perfect in the beginning it takes time and even more time after that to make a relationship semi perfect. You are the problem, you put unwanted pressure on your partner, in which it makes them walk on egg shells around you instead of relaxing and being romantic as you want them to be.
Let your partner be himself/herself and you will be rewarded with everything you need and sometimes of what you want stop rushing and stop being the problem and no do not leave your mate just slow your roll and everything will work itself out with time and talking
Hello Datingcasanova here,
Today's topic is when to not leave your mate, this is a very broad topic some people will disagree and some people will agree to this.
Your relationship is not going as well as you thought it should, you had everything planned out but your mate is causing everything to run at a slower rate is it time to leave them and stop putting up with the things he/she does?
The easy answer to this question is NO, just because you have something planned does not mean everything will go as planned, because plans change. You say your mate is slowing down your process aye? Visualize for a second you on your own cooking,cleaning,taking out the trash,mowing the lawn,paying the bills,etc. Suddenly having that partner does not seem to be slowing you down anymore in fact your partner is helping you speed up anything you are doing or planning to do. Do not over look the small things one mate does because that small thing could be something huge if you had to do it yourself.
Mate not living up to your standards? I'll answer that question with a question, why even have standards with the person you LOVE accept them for who they are not who you want them to be, take the time to talk it out with them and help nudge them into the person you want them to be without changing them. Take a deep breath and slow down because your relationship is being rushed if you want everything to be perfect in the beginning it takes time and even more time after that to make a relationship semi perfect. You are the problem, you put unwanted pressure on your partner, in which it makes them walk on egg shells around you instead of relaxing and being romantic as you want them to be.
Let your partner be himself/herself and you will be rewarded with everything you need and sometimes of what you want stop rushing and stop being the problem and no do not leave your mate just slow your roll and everything will work itself out with time and talking
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When to Leave Your Mate! / Other Reasons To Leave
« on: May 16, 2012, 01:18:57 pm »
There are many reasons to leave one's mate but only some are the right reasons Datingcasanova here trying to help people improve on their decisions to leave their mate.
So your mate has not cheated but you are still wondering should i leave this person because I am unhappy? Well to answer this question have you talked to your partner about your unhappiness. If so continue on.
We are only human so we miss the little things that we do to harm our mates and viceversa. Your mate comes home late from work a lot of days out of the week. So immediately you suspect cheating so you hire a pi or you go to his/ her job and see his/her car there and you try to pop in for a surprise visit and boom she is not cheating so now you are standing looking like a fool because you thought she had broken your trust but in reality you broke his/hers because you could not trust his/her words! Now things at home are going from bad to worse and you tried to explain I was unhappy I thought you were cheating on me I am sorry and You do things everyday to show him/her that you are sorry, but he/she wont let the issue die down, so everyday you are arguing about the same situation, this is okay because you deserve this and this is his/her way of punishing you for not trusting him/her. Then you finally get him/her to stop after SHOWING that you are willing to make up for it. Now things are moving smoothly heck even better than when you were just unhappy, you are loving everything you two talk about and one night BOOM he/she brings up something that you worked so hard to get them to forgive you for and now she/he is threatening to leave you over it.
Lets stop for a second because i would like to say it should only take 4 months max for a person to get over something
Lets continue on.
So you are now scratching your head about the situation like I thought I showed you that I am sorry everything is going good why start problems now? This is when it is time to leave your mate because this means your mate knew you were unhappy infact you talked to him/her about it and they purposely did things to keep you unhappy and when they realized you were smiling and truly happy the did not want that because himself/herself loves to be in misery and you do not want to be in an unhealthy relationship like that so get a plane,bus,train ticket and get away so that person can not reach you! There is nothing you can do to make a genuinely unhappy person happy and you will kill yourself trying to do so and in the end you will always fall short
So your mate has not cheated but you are still wondering should i leave this person because I am unhappy? Well to answer this question have you talked to your partner about your unhappiness. If so continue on.
We are only human so we miss the little things that we do to harm our mates and viceversa. Your mate comes home late from work a lot of days out of the week. So immediately you suspect cheating so you hire a pi or you go to his/ her job and see his/her car there and you try to pop in for a surprise visit and boom she is not cheating so now you are standing looking like a fool because you thought she had broken your trust but in reality you broke his/hers because you could not trust his/her words! Now things at home are going from bad to worse and you tried to explain I was unhappy I thought you were cheating on me I am sorry and You do things everyday to show him/her that you are sorry, but he/she wont let the issue die down, so everyday you are arguing about the same situation, this is okay because you deserve this and this is his/her way of punishing you for not trusting him/her. Then you finally get him/her to stop after SHOWING that you are willing to make up for it. Now things are moving smoothly heck even better than when you were just unhappy, you are loving everything you two talk about and one night BOOM he/she brings up something that you worked so hard to get them to forgive you for and now she/he is threatening to leave you over it.
Lets stop for a second because i would like to say it should only take 4 months max for a person to get over something
Lets continue on.
So you are now scratching your head about the situation like I thought I showed you that I am sorry everything is going good why start problems now? This is when it is time to leave your mate because this means your mate knew you were unhappy infact you talked to him/her about it and they purposely did things to keep you unhappy and when they realized you were smiling and truly happy the did not want that because himself/herself loves to be in misery and you do not want to be in an unhealthy relationship like that so get a plane,bus,train ticket and get away so that person can not reach you! There is nothing you can do to make a genuinely unhappy person happy and you will kill yourself trying to do so and in the end you will always fall short
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When to Leave Your Mate! / Re: When to Leave Cheating Mate
« on: May 16, 2012, 01:03:46 pm »
These are the reasons for leaving your mate comment and tell us what you think about what was said and if you have additional advice for the memebers
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When to Leave Your Mate! / Re: When to Leave Cheating Mate
« on: May 16, 2012, 01:01:23 pm »
Reason To Leave #2
Your mate tells you, lays with you, and say they will do anything that you need and be there when you need them to be, but when such a situation comes they choose something else over the you that is hurting. For an example: The job called in and asks if they can come in to work on the same day you just asked your mate if they can be there with you all day because you need him/her to get over this pain. Your mate says yes to the job and when you confront him/her, he/she says well the job needs me and i can not just leave them like that, while you are thinking to yourself But i need you remember i just said that. He/She gets dressed for work and continue on to work and you just lay in bed feeling all the pain that your mate caused you and now you are feeling even more pain because he/she chose a job over you, knowing all the while they can always get a job but there is only one of you they still chose the job. This is a good enough reason to leave your mate because you have lost trust of your mate and he/she says they will be there for you and something small like a job comes up and he/she goes to it instead of doing what she/he said he/she would do. Killing your trust even more and the darkness consumes you making you feel as if you are nothing, and that the person who is doing this to you is way better than you so you stay and suffer, but you DON'T because this is when it is time to leave your mate because they broke your trust twice and was not there when you needed them so move on to someone who will be there for you!
Your mate tells you, lays with you, and say they will do anything that you need and be there when you need them to be, but when such a situation comes they choose something else over the you that is hurting. For an example: The job called in and asks if they can come in to work on the same day you just asked your mate if they can be there with you all day because you need him/her to get over this pain. Your mate says yes to the job and when you confront him/her, he/she says well the job needs me and i can not just leave them like that, while you are thinking to yourself But i need you remember i just said that. He/She gets dressed for work and continue on to work and you just lay in bed feeling all the pain that your mate caused you and now you are feeling even more pain because he/she chose a job over you, knowing all the while they can always get a job but there is only one of you they still chose the job. This is a good enough reason to leave your mate because you have lost trust of your mate and he/she says they will be there for you and something small like a job comes up and he/she goes to it instead of doing what she/he said he/she would do. Killing your trust even more and the darkness consumes you making you feel as if you are nothing, and that the person who is doing this to you is way better than you so you stay and suffer, but you DON'T because this is when it is time to leave your mate because they broke your trust twice and was not there when you needed them so move on to someone who will be there for you!
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When to Leave Your Mate! / Re: When to Leave Cheating Mate
« on: May 16, 2012, 12:51:37 pm »
Hello again lets finish the above and feel free to comment on these forums.
Now the ---- has really hit the fan for your relationship. Your mate can respond in 3 different with 2 ways being wrong and 1 way being the only way.
When to leave #1- Your Mate decides to feel empowered because you chose to give him/her another chance and thinks to himself/herself I can do anything and this fool will still try to take me back he/she is a push over time to have some fun!.......So they go out and cheat again and this time told you about them cheating and puts on an act of how sorry they are using excuses they were drunk etc. So now again you are at the crossroads on staying with this person or leaving this person. It is obvious from someone on the outside to say you should leave that person, but you are still in love and can not bring yourself to leave him/her. It happened a second time and your mate saw the pain and devastation that you went through the first time around and still let himself/herself bring you to that pain again, That my friend is when it is time to leave your mate or in this case your ex mate.
Now the ---- has really hit the fan for your relationship. Your mate can respond in 3 different with 2 ways being wrong and 1 way being the only way.
When to leave #1- Your Mate decides to feel empowered because you chose to give him/her another chance and thinks to himself/herself I can do anything and this fool will still try to take me back he/she is a push over time to have some fun!.......So they go out and cheat again and this time told you about them cheating and puts on an act of how sorry they are using excuses they were drunk etc. So now again you are at the crossroads on staying with this person or leaving this person. It is obvious from someone on the outside to say you should leave that person, but you are still in love and can not bring yourself to leave him/her. It happened a second time and your mate saw the pain and devastation that you went through the first time around and still let himself/herself bring you to that pain again, That my friend is when it is time to leave your mate or in this case your ex mate.
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When to Leave Your Mate! / When to Leave Cheating Mate
« on: May 16, 2012, 12:43:05 pm »
So your mate cheated on you and you have always suspected them of doing it but when you ask she/he looks you in the eye and says no I have not cheated. Then later on someone sees you walking with your mate and ask hey is this your brother/sister and you say no i am her husband/boyfriend/fiance.....then they come out and say well I'm sorry me and her have been seeing each other for a while now his/her head drops and you get furious. Now you guys are back at home and you are enraged your mate is scared for 2 reasons of you snapping and cocking them a cold one and of you leaving. You then look him/her in the eye and say i asked you if you cheated on me you said no, he/she stands there silent this makes you even more upset so you pour out your heart and start to move around franticly, now your mate decides to say something and he/she says If i would of told you, you would of left me! you then look at him/her and think to yourself these very thoughts: How can a person be so selfish, how can he/she try to manipulate me by withholding the truth from me, If you loved me and did not want me to leave you would of not cheated no matter how bad things were! Now out of anger you raise your head because you hurt this pain you are feeling is nothing like you felt before and instead of yelling and throwing tantrums you sink into the floor with tears pouring. Your mate embraces you and says I am sorry, But you did not hear them for the pain was just too much.
Now lets stop here for a second because this is where you tell if you should leave your mate or stay with them
Now lets stop here for a second because this is where you tell if you should leave your mate or stay with them
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When to Leave Your Mate! / Leaving is Not Easy
« on: May 16, 2012, 12:38:05 pm »
Hello everyone Datingcasanova here, Some of my fellow members were asking questions on when is the right time to leave your mate.
As most of you know it is never to leave someone in a relationship especially when you love that person. Fact of the matter you would be down right a cold person if you just left without trying to fix the relationship. I'm not going to talk about how to fix a relationship in this post, I will tell when you it is time to leave!!
You work all day and tired just wanting to come home and forget about all the stress that you dealt with at work, but you cant because when you get home there are more problems that you can deal with right now!
So you try to go into another room so you can just take a quick nap and clear your head but the person follows you into the room and keeps nagging about something that really isnt important.
Is this a reason to leave the person you might be asking.
The clear answer is no!
The Onlyreal reason to leave your mate is if they have cheated and show no signs of trying and i do mean trying to fix the problem, They constantly choose other people or things over you, or down right tell you that they do not need you!
As most of you know it is never to leave someone in a relationship especially when you love that person. Fact of the matter you would be down right a cold person if you just left without trying to fix the relationship. I'm not going to talk about how to fix a relationship in this post, I will tell when you it is time to leave!!
You work all day and tired just wanting to come home and forget about all the stress that you dealt with at work, but you cant because when you get home there are more problems that you can deal with right now!
So you try to go into another room so you can just take a quick nap and clear your head but the person follows you into the room and keeps nagging about something that really isnt important.
Is this a reason to leave the person you might be asking.
The clear answer is no!
The Onlyreal reason to leave your mate is if they have cheated and show no signs of trying and i do mean trying to fix the problem, They constantly choose other people or things over you, or down right tell you that they do not need you!
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Im pursuing this woman here is my situation / Re: 2nd time
« on: January 29, 2012, 08:18:00 am »
There is skype since she is on facebook I am assuming she has internet connection anything that you can voice chat with her about is great try this out and tell me if it worked for you later today 92% chance it will from past experiences but to be honest dating someone i dated before was not the same but i hope this works out for you
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Im pursuing this woman here is my situation / Re: 2nd time
« on: January 29, 2012, 08:09:49 am »
yes though facebook is a way to communicate with someone it is not the best a phone/skype conversation you can hear the tones of the person voice that lets you know when not to say something and when to say something 47 miles is not far at all if this is the woman you are pursuing distance does not matter if you truly want to be with this person so i say your first step to winning her back is getting her number
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Im pursuing this woman here is my situation / Re: 2nd time
« on: January 29, 2012, 08:03:56 am »
Quick question if you guys did not exchange numbers how will you talk later? now on to the next thing if you were discussing some business proposal that is good also meaning you can get a place to meet up such as a diner or at one of your homes, first thing i would say to do is try to get her number to contact her do not do it as if you are hitting on her get it and say you are discussing the business proposal and once you guys meet up bring up the past relationship and she might be silent when you bring it up but its a good time for you to apologize even if you do not feel it was your fault
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Im pursuing this woman here is my situation / Re: 2nd time
« on: January 29, 2012, 07:53:20 am »
Oh that is good did you at least exchange numbers because that made it seem like you were too busy for her and that you forgot about her and the past you have a small window of opportunity to get her back
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Im pursuing this woman here is my situation / Re: 2nd time
« on: January 29, 2012, 07:38:32 am »
Oh ok i see from what i can tell the break up that happened was and was not your fault im guessing she was pretty young when her dad got sick and she had to get a job early so it stressed her out and with you two arguing it added even more stress to the situation. The reason you guys only talk for 5 minutes now im guessing is because it reminds her of a time when she was most stressed and probably never want to be under that type of pressure again. Relax though because that does not mean you can not get her back the first thing you should show her is that you are a better man than you were in the past and that you understand that you were being harsh to her when she was under so much pressure tell her if you could take all the things you both argued about back you will and tell her you want to get to know the new her and things should start from there
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Im pursuing this woman here is my situation / Re: 2nd time
« on: January 29, 2012, 07:30:35 am »
Hey there hajibaba
I have a quick question for you how did you guys break apart and how are things between you two right now
I have a quick question for you how did you guys break apart and how are things between you two right now
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Im pursuing this woman here is my situation / Re: ???O'so Complicated???
« on: January 18, 2012, 08:10:38 am »
Glad to have helped keep with it though to keep the sparks flying so the relationship never dies out and another thing no matter if you are a player or looking for true love if you keep her happy she will make you extremely happy so keep up the text messages while she is at work so you can be on her mind through out the day
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